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Effects of male menopause

“The masculine energy was about survival. The male was the hunter who risked his life and had to be in the fight-flight mode.”


By Alex P. Vidal16265768_10208183164239698_2290510430437645716_n

“Is there such thing as male menopause, sir?” asked Lovelyn, mass communication student at Iloilo St. Paul University, inside the editorial room of Sun.Star, a daily newspaper I once edited.
“Female menopause yes, but male menopause I haven’t heard of that,” I honestly replied to Lovelyn. “Since I am a newsman and not a doctor, we might as well consult the experts on the subject matter: the doctors themselves.”
Days later, I found an article that could help provide the answer to Lovelyn’s question: Dr. Tito Garrido’s article about male menopause.
Garrido admitted that most Filipino males would not admit they also have menopause. The mere mention of the very idea that men experience a form of menopausal change will still draw amusement and laughter, he said.


“But this concept has been around as early as 1950s and it has recently enjoyed more attention and credibility,” Garrido explained in his column “At Your Service” at the The Philippine Post dated July 14, 1999.
Garrido defined male menopause as “a crisis of confidence identified in the middle aged men, comparable with menopause in women, but thought to be caused by psychological factors such as fear of aging.”
The doctor explained further: “Undoubtedly, a part of the controversy as to whether there is indeed such a thing, stems from the misleading use of the term menopause. Derived from the Greek word ‘menses,’ it refers to the cessation of a woman’s monthly menstrual cycle. ‘Andropause,’ which relies on the Greek work for a man, Andro, is the most commonly accepted term, defined as the natural cessation of the sexual function of older men.”
Garrido explained that some authors see it more broadly as “a biological an biochemical condition that has psychological, physical and emotional components.” Viropause/andropause is a naturally occurring psychological state that occurs in men’s middle years, producing feeling of unhappiness and undermining men’s sense of self worth, identity, and competence, stressed Garrido.


The doctor said endocrinologists have pointed out that in men, there is nothing as traumatic as in the case of women–there is no one period, no striking change to indicate a drop in hormonal levels. However, research indicates that men to experience this phenomenon, gradually producing less and less of the male sex hormone, testosterone, as they age. In most cases, this progressive decline occurs from age 20 to 80 years.


These various hormonally-induced physical and behavioral changes is now generally perceived to be the underpinning of this male menopause, or andropause, he explained.
“But this is only part of the equation,” Garrido wrote, “for there are also profound emotional aspects as well. It is at this transitional stage of life that a psychological stock-taking, often triggered by biological changes, usually occurs. The reflection on one’s life can also be triggered by other physical factors such as an illness like high blood pressure or heart attack, receding hairline, greying hair, or some forms of sexual dysfunction.”


He further stressed: “Other less tangible precipitating factors can include retirement or financial stress, or becoming a grandfather for instance. This process can then lead to stress and unhappiness, or what is more commonly referred at as a mid-life crisis.” If a man discovers that he can’t attain his goals and then discovers that his body isn’t as reliable and as strong as it used to be, the effects of male menopause are compounded.”
He warned that most men do indeed manage this transition well, but for those that do not, they often start experimenting with life, making major life-altering changes. “This is where the classic stereotype of the middle-aged man dumping his wife in favor of his twentysomething secretary comes into play,” Garrido emphasized. “It is a phenomenon that is described in psychological terms as ‘fusion with younger body’ in a futile effort to regain his lost youth.”


In severe cases in which a man experiences abnormally low testosterone levels, hormone replacement therapy maybe the answer, but many medical practitioners see this only as a last resort, Garrido observed.
“In some cases, simply minimizing psychological and physical stress, reducing alcohol intake and stopping smoking for instance, may help,” he suggested. “In short, attending to the needs of the physical body is healthy, the others aspects fall into line.”
On the psychological side, acceptance of aging is crucial–adopt the attitude that you’re not getting older, you’re getting better, he volunteered. “Value your wisdom over physical prowess and re-evaluate your goals and what you already have and try and bring them closer together,” Garrido asserted. “And most of all, accept that the dreams of your youth were probably unrealistic, rework these dreams so that they may continue to inspire you, but in a more realistic context.”
Garrido warned: “Andropause does not take place in a vacuum. While the male is coping with these changes, the spouse is undergoing even more dramatic changes with her own menopause. The good doctor says that if both partners do not realize what is happening and make adjustments to life and thought, the crisis of middle age need not be that much of a crisis.”

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Spirit vs Ego: The dialogue

“The greatest human quest is to know what one must do in order to become a human being.” IMMANUEL KANT

By Alex P. Vidal29572442_10211417967587760_356020253209754251_n

In one of the best metaphors, a dialogue between Ego and Spirit, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, has a very interesting story to share in his book, Your Sacred Self.
Dyer, author or Real Magic and Your Erroneous Zones, described Ego and Spirit in his story as two babies in utero confined to the wall of their mother’s womb, and they are having a conversation.
Spirit says to Ego, “I know you are going to find this difficult to accept, but I truly believe there is life after birth.”
Ego responds, “Don’t be ridiculous. Look around you. This is all there is. Why must you always be thinking about something beyond this reality? Accept your lot in life. Make yourself comfortable and forget about all of this life-after-birth nonsense.”
Spirit quiets down for a while, but her inner voice won’t allow her to remain silent any longer. “Ego, now don’t get mad, but I have something else to say. I also believe that there is a Mother.”


“A Mother!” Ego guffaws. “How can you be so absurd?” You’ve never seen a Mother. Why can’t you accept that this is all there is?” The idea of a Mother is crazy. You are here alone with me. This is your reality. Now grab hold of that cord. Go into your corner and stop being so silly. Trust me, there is no Mother.”
Spirit reluctantly stops her conversation with Ego, but her carelessness soon gets the better of her. “Ego,” she implores, “please listen without rejecting my idea. Somehow I think that those constant pressures we both feel, those movements that make us so uncomfortable sometimes, that continual repositioning and all of that closing in that seems to be taking place as we keep growing, is getting us ready for a place of glowing light, and we will experience it very soon.”
“Now I know you are absolutely insane,” replies Ego. “All you’ve ever known is darkness. You’ve never seen light. How can you even contemplate such an idea?” Those movements and pressures you feel are your reality. You are a distinct separate being.This is your journey. Darkness and pressures and a closed-in feeling are what life is all about. You’ll have to fight it as long as you live. Now grab your cord and please stay still.”


Spirit relaxes for a while, but finally she can contain herself no longer. “Ego, I have only one more thing to say and then I’ll never bother you again.”
“Go ahead,” Ego responds, impatiently.
“I believe all of these pressures and all of this discomfort is not only going to bring us to a new celestial light, but when we experience it, we are going to meet Mother face-to-face and know an ecstasy that is beyond anything we have ever experienced up until now.”
“You really are crazy, Spirit. Now I’m truly convinced of it.”
Your Sacred Self is a literal interpretation of the metaphor, which Dyer have adapted from a story told by Henri J.M. Nouwen. “It is my attempt to introduce you to that glowing celestial light and to let you know the wonder of having your sacred self triumph over the demands of the eg-self, which wants more than anything to hold you back,” Dyer explained.


He organized the booK around the following four understandings:
1. You are sacred, and in order to know it you must transcend the old belief system you’ve adopted.
2. You are a divine being called to know your sacred self by mastering the keys to higher awareness.
3. Your sacred self can triumph over your ego identifies and be the dominant force in your life.
4. You can radiate this awareness beyond your own boundaries and affect everyone on our planet.

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